Your Money Mindset Profile: The Sufferer

The nine money mindset profiles, although described as a type of person, are really states of mind that create the characteristics of an archetype.  Consequently these states of mind can be changed and along with the change in mindset comes a change in behaviour and attitude towards money.  The mindset states are fluid and although some people may occupy a particular state for a long period of time, it is possible to progress through these states organically.  However, the majority of people who get stuck in a particular state fail to shift it without external intervention.

This is because it is impossible to break free of your limiting behaviour and beliefs unless you know exactly what are the limiting behaviour and beliefs you are trying to replace. Do you spend more money than you have? Do you feel that you don’t deserve money? Do you believe that you have to compromise your ethics to make money? Are you rarely contented with your financial situation? These are just a few of the questions that you will need to answer in order to begin to break free from your bad money habits and restore money harmony in your life.

The 9 money mindset profiles I have identified are based on my observations of how people I have worked with, lived with, mentored and coached interacted with money.  In addition I have also drawn on the work of Deborah L. Price (a highly regarded financial advisor and money coach in the USA) in her book Money Magic.
The Sufferer: Sufferers see themselves as victims of society.  They believe that they suffer at the hands of those who control money and blame their lack of money on others and their prevailing circumstances.  It’s the recession, wages are low, investments favour the rich, and society is unfair.  While some of these statements may be true, the issue with Sufferers is that they shift all the blame externally and take no ownership of their own intrinsic power to increase the flow of wealth and abundance within their own lives.

The sufferer money mindset imageThe Sufferer: The Sufferer’s biggest issue is that they are stuck in the past and rather than move forward with their lives, they preferred to lick their wounds; using them to justify why they have not been more financially successful.  There is a famous quote, now attributed to several well-known motivational speakers including Dr Wayne Dyer and Tony Robbins: “it’s never too late to have a happy childhood” so it is well within their power for The Sufferer to put down the sack cloth and ashes.  However The Sufferer is not prepared to process their pain because by playing this role they are able to manipulate others to do things for them.  Hence The Sufferer is always looking for someone to step in and save the day.  They often feel that they deserve special treatment and a free ride because of their earlier “suffering”.  As far as they are concerned the trials and tribulations side of their balance sheet has many more entries than their blessings and rewards columns and they are seeking some serious redress.

Sufferers feel that they deserve money because life owes them.  As such they resent the fact that it doesn’t just flow into their lives and consider that the effort they put in should be more than enough.  However entitlement is just another form of lack mentality with the same negative results for the flow of wealth and abundance within one’s life.

For people stuck in The Sufferer money mindset to progress, they must begin the journey of inner reflection and self-healing in order to face and heal their past.  The key to this is simple although not necessarily easy – forgiveness.  The Sufferer must learn to forgive themselves and others so that they can let go of the past.  Forgiveness is a gift that you give yourself.  It is the key to your personal freedom.  Many people believe that forgiveness requires remorse and acceptance of blame to be present.  However forgiveness requires nothing more than a willingness to be open to the love and grace that true forgiveness offers.  Forgiveness has the power to transform past hurts into gifts; that is, show you something about yourself that requires healing.  In order to start the process of forgiveness The Sufferer must be willing to trust that their experiences, memories and feelings are their perceptions as opposed to how they currently see them; as a set of historical facts.

Forgiveness asks you to recognise and own completely your experiences without blaming or judging-in other words to take complete responsibility.  Once The Sufferer is able to heal the past they realise that they have so much more to give by living in the present than wallowing in their history.  The real awakening happens for The Sufferer mindset when they recognise they are far more than the sum of their experiences.

Typically Sufferer money mindset profiles are: addictive, prone to holding grudges, bitter, want to be rescued, irresponsible with money, stuck in the past, highly emotional, i.e.  depressed or in a rage, prone to blaming others, driven by their negative self talk, feel helpless.

Your money mindset profile result is based on the questions you answered.  If you’re concerned that you do not fit the money mindset profile selected, it could be that you are a mixture of one or more profiles and the one identified has a slight dominance.  This is not an exact science.  The money mindset profiles are designed to help you heal issues in your relationship with money and it aims to provide you with useful information in this matter.  However, if you feel that these are not your issues, please look through the other profile types and work on the issues that you feel would best serve you.