Your Money Mindset Profile: The Bully

The nine money mindset profiles, although described as a type of person, are really states of mind that create the characteristics of an archetype.  Consequently these states of mind can be changed and along with the change in mindset comes a change in behaviour and attitude towards money.  The mindset states are fluid and although some people may occupy a particular state for a long period of time, it is possible to progress through these states organically.  However, the majority of people who get stuck in a particular state fail to shift it without external intervention.

This is because it is impossible to break free of your limiting behaviour and beliefs unless you know exactly what are the limiting behaviour and beliefs you are trying to replace. Do you spend more money than you have? Do you feel that you don’t deserve money? Do you believe that you have to compromise your ethics to make money? Are you rarely contented with your financial situation? These are just a few of the questions that you will need to answer in order to begin to break free from your bad money habits and restore money harmony in your life.

The 9 money mindset profiles I have identified are based on my observations of how people I have worked with, lived with, mentored and coached interacted with money.  In addition I have also drawn on the work of Deborah L. Price (a highly regarded financial advisor and money coach in the USA) in her book Money Magic

The Bully: The bully money mindset imageBullies use money to control others. Often misers, they lack generosity when it comes to keeping the flow of money going. If they are males, they are quite chauvinistic in their outlook and often use money as a way of oppressing their partners. Bullies shy away from close relationships with others because they don’t want to share their resources. Often Bullies’ lives are filled with conflict.

Bullies feel that because of their superior money management abilities, they have the right to force their habits and values down the throats of those around them, particularly if they consider others to be inept at managing their money.  Like all bullies, the money mindset bully profile hides an insecure person who is projecting their own lack of worth on to others.  This money mindset profile feels fulfilled by knowing that they have power to control others less dominant than they are.  They tend to be successful financially because of their win at all costs mentality.  Bullies are often cavalier about the truth and frequently manipulate others to achieve selfish goals without any consideration of the effects on those they manipulate.  The money mindset bully profile typically displays little remorse, shame or guilt about their cutthroat behaviour. Bullies are characterised by their self-important attitude regardless of their standing in the community.

Unfortunately, society has romanticised this money mindset profile and the bully is often put up in the media as the way to be successful in business.  As a result many people internalise their fear of becoming a slave to  money and power by convincing themselves that money is evil and therefore not something that they want in their lives.  The money mindset profile of the bully is desperately seeking acceptance and love but doesn’t know how to express the need for this.  They may be able to afford to buy anything they want, but sadly many cannot buy the deeper connection they most desire.

For people stuck in this money mindset profile, the key is self acceptance and connecting to your original authentic self.  The bully must learn to strip away the psychological baggage they are wearing like clothes that tells them that they are unworthy, wrong and not good enough.  Once they are able to stand “naked” as their authentic true self, they will be able to use their natural talents for leadership and decisiveness more productively.

Typically, bully money mindset profiles are: manipulative, selfish, superficially charming, enjoy taking risks, easily bored, lacks empathy, inflexible, critical and judgemental, lacks a sense of remorse.

Your money mindset profile result is based on the questions you answered.  If you’re concerned that you do not fit the money mindset profile selected, it could be that you are a mixture of one or more profiles and the one identified has a slight dominance.  This is not an exact science.  The money mindset profiles are designed to help you heal issues in your relationship with money and it aims to provide you with useful information in this matter.  However, if you feel that these are not your issues, please look through the other profile types and work on the issues that you feel would best serve you.