How the fear of feeling is a barrier to your success

The ability to create true wealth in your life that is to live a life where you are successful wealthy and happy doing what you love requires you to take action.  However, many people do not take action because they are afraid of failing and the unpleasant feelings that normally accompany failure. Not wanting to experience failure is the mantra of the ego and actually stops you taking action, therefore it causes you to "fail".  So if what is currently stopping you taking the action towards achieving the life you know you should be living is the fear of failing;  or the fear of putting your head above the parapet  and being seen; or even if it's the fear of being ridiculed, then lets experience it! It’s a fact! You are going to "fail"!  People will ignore you.  Everyone is not going … [Read more...]

10 Principles for living life well

  Life is a journey the destination the soul. Living your life well help you stay on track - even if you stray a bit every now and then. Have you read the Ten Rules for Being Human by Cherie Carter-Scott ? They are  fabulous. Anyway it made me think what would be great advice for living your life well. So here are my 10 principles for living your life well. The picture above is a poster which you can right click and save to your computer if you would like to print the principles out .  Enjoy! A mirror will only ever show you the images already in your mind.  To discover what the real you "looks" like look inside yourself. All life's lessons first appear as tiny raindrops on windowpanes.  They become howling hurricane if you ignore them. There is only one destination; the … [Read more...]

How to make every day of your life amazing

If you are not living the life you desire, if you know that you need to make a change soon before the decision is taken out of your control; for example if you are constantly living under the threat of redundancy. If you feel that you are not making the impact that you know you can then learning to run your life like a top CEO is the answer. It takes confidence to be a CEO and accept full responsibility for the success or otherwise of your company; to lead and inspire; to make both difficult and easy decisions and to make them even when you don't have all the right information available to you. It also takes confidence to know when to take risks and when to cut out parts of the organisation that are no longer working for it. Running your life is no different; to be the CEO of You plc … [Read more...]

Not all red berries are poisonous !

Now it can’t have escaped your notice that Tuesday was Valentine’s Day.  How was it for you? Were you remembered in someone else’s heart? Over the past few years my mother has taken to either sending me valentine’s cards or ringing me up and wishing me Happy Valentine’s day. At first I thought it was sort of odd but then I guess she is seeing it in a bigger context. Instead of just being a day for lovers she is seeing it a day to celebrate relationships, which is I guess is nice as it’s more inclusive – you don’t have to feel left out just because you don’t have a romantic love interest in your life. Relationships are of course very important to us as human beings. Basically relationships fulfil our two primary needs to be loved and give love. However we all know that not all our … [Read more...]

If money was your life partner what would your relationship be like?

February is the month of love and relationships, but who is your primary relationship with?  It may come as a shock but for many people it's with money – and unfortunately it's not a healthy relationship either!  How we feel about money is a powerful driving force for our behaviour because in our community there are few if any things that we have access to without money e.g. the roof over our heads, food or being able to provide for our loved ones.  Money underlies everything we do – in the West it is hard to imagine a life without it.  The more senior amongst us may recall the television programme "The Good Life" a comedy series in the mid to late 70s about a middle-class couple who decided to try and live a life of self-sufficiency in suburbia.  Whilst the program was a highly amusing … [Read more...]

How to be the CEO of You Plc

The best way to live life on purpose and to the full  is to live in line with your values - doing what you love i.e. following your passion. Think of it as you being or becoming the CEO of your own life. That is being completely in charge, taking full responsibility of your life, everything that happens to you and everything that you do. CEOs run businesses and whether you are formally in business or not - clearly the first business to be in charge of is the business of your own life - YOU Plc. After all isn’t your life your business! Being the CEO of your own life means that you are in charge – the buck stops with you - that means you take absolute responsibility for everything that happens to you. Every day you have a choice of whether to get the results you want or to have reasons … [Read more...]

How to be the wealthiest person on earth

How wealthy are you?  When you hear that question do you automatically start tallying all your physical assets?  Are you thinking about the money you have in the bank or what your earning potential is?  Are you thinking about any property you own, your car, the contents of your home?  It is common to equate wealth to money and for many people when they think about how wealthy they are they automatically think of monetary assets. Money and the pursuit of it seemed to dominate our lives.  This is because we see money as possessing the power to provide us with everything we need physically emotionally and psychologically and even spiritually. The problems arise when our beliefs about money start to impact on our lives in a negative way. Some of the problems that people have with … [Read more...]

Powerful words that heal

Affirmations and proclamation can be useful tools in helping to change your money mindset profile and thus enable you to re write your wealth narrative and attract wealth and abundance into your life. Your wealth narrative is the story you have programmed in your mind about your relationship with money. This is what determines how wealthy you are in your life; whether you measure your wealth in financial term or in human wealth terms (human wealth describes the intangibles such as happiness, love, peace contentment etc). The difference between a proclamation and an affirmation is small and it is really a matter of emphasis. Whether you will work better with affirmations or proclamations will be dependent on your learning style and just how loud the internal dialogue in your head is. . … [Read more...]

Creating your wealth narrative

  Healing your relationship with money is the single most important step you can take to changing your financial circumstances. If you feel like you and wealth currently live on two different planets, this is your rocket ship to start your mission to boldly go where you have not gone before and seek out new planets of wealth. If you are currently programmed for lack around money, if your beliefs and values are causing you to unconsciously drive wealth from your life, here is one thing you can do immediately to break your programming, change your thoughts and feelings and so lead you to take the action that will produce the results you desire: a marvellous life of wealth and abundance. Create a wealth narrative. Your wealth narrative is your wealth story, how it unfolds is up to … [Read more...]

Your wealth and abundance mindset

Do you know that you are already rich? You probably just don't realise it yet, however, right now you have within your possession a multi-million pound asset, or indeed something money cannot buy. Most people think of their personal wealth in terms of physical money and possessions; however what if you were to take a different kind of personal audit? What if you were to value what until now you have placed little value on a.k.a. YOU. So let's start with your hands I'm assuming that you have two of them, and if by some sad chance you do not, you will have already been made very aware of their value. So how much would you say your hands are worth? Perhaps you think well not much, but if I were to offer you are £500 for one of them, would you sell me your right hand now? Possibly not. … [Read more...]

The 9 money mindsets

    The nine money mindset profiles, although described as a type of person, are really states of mind that create the characteristics of an archetype. Consequently these states of mind can be changed and along with the change in mindset comes a change in behaviour and attitude towards money. The mindset states are fluid and although some people may occupy a particular state for a long period of time, it is possible to progress through these states organically. However the majority of people who get stuck in a particular state fail to shift it without external intervention. This is because it is impossible to break free of your limiting behaviour and beliefs unless you know exactly what are the limiting behaviour and beliefs you are trying to replace. Do you spend more money than you … [Read more...]

How going to pot can make you rich

Having a good relationship with money also means learning how to manage your money effectively. I recently came across a very good budgeting system which is based on the idea of using 6 categories or pots for allocating your expenditure. The idea is to split whatever money you have coming in into different ?Pots? for different purposes. As money flows into your life, a certain percentage goes into each ?Pot? before you spend anything: The 6 pots or categories are: Necessities - 55% These are your day to day expenses and bills basically what it cost to live month to month , travel and petrol, food, toiletries and rent or mortgage payments, insurance policies , utilities the whole hog – As these are your biggest cost it’s the biggest pot and 55% of your income goes into this … [Read more...]

Top 10 limiting beliefs about money that could be blocking the flow of wealth and abundance into your life #10

Limiting belief # 10: the rich get richer and the poor get poorer A quick look at the distribution of wealth and resources in the world today would seem to reinforce this limiting belief. Over the last 10 years the gap in earnings between the top 5% and the bottom 20% has grown exponentially. We are bombarded with stories of CEOs excessive bonuses and pay awards, outstripping those of the “coalface” one hundred and forty times over. The poverty focused money mindset is learned behaviour – hence if you are surrounded by wealthy people you will adopt the behaviour patterns and mindset of wealthy people which will open your eyes to opportunities and possibilities that you will not be aware of if you grow up in a poor neighbourhood where there is high unemployment and low expectations. … [Read more...]

Trust in abundance but pay down your debts: 5 common sense steps to becoming debt free

There is a saying in Islam -trust in Allah but tie-up your camel! The concept being that while it is right and proper to trust it also makes sense to have an insurance policy. Applying the same principle to your personal finances means that whilst the key to a financial secure, successful life is developing a wealth and abundance mindset, it is also prudent to manage the money that flows into your life effectively. In the latter part of the 20th century western democracies became fuelled by debt. Instead of referring to it as debt we started to think of it as credit. Perhaps this was our way of masking the truth. How attractive does the idea of a debt card sound as opposed to it being called a credit card. The advertisers convinced us that credit was a good thing because it enabled us … [Read more...]

3 basic rules for managing your money

How we see money determines how we treat it and this in turn creates the financial circumstances we experience. Having a mindset of wealth and abundance doesn't mean being irresponsible with money and disregarding the basic rules. The celebrity world is littered with tales of stars who have been forced to declare bankruptcy despite the fact of having earned hundreds of millions of pounds during their career. For example, Michael Jackson is purported to have earned over $500m; yet at the time of his tragic and untimely death, it is estimated that his estate was over $400 million in debt. Far from disregarding basic financial management rules, a mindset of wealth and abundance positively embraces the realism of living within your means and being able to defer gratification. When you truly … [Read more...]

Tycoon Women

Tycoon women offers training, mentoring and coaching to women to enable them to have a better relationship with money and as a result increase the flow of money and wealth into their lives. Typically my clients are women who are finding it difficult to manage their money successfully. Women who no matter how hard they work or how much they earn always seem to be struggling financially; as if they and wealth live on two different planets. I work with both individuals and business owners. My programs takes as a starting point that what we think leads to what we feel, which leads to how we act which then gives us the results we experience. It is based on principles that have been successfully used within NLP and coaching. I focus on working one-on-one with individuals to address negative … [Read more...]

Top 10 limiting beliefs about money that could be blocking the flow of wealth and abundance into your life #9

Limiting belief # 9: it takes money to make money Whoever said "it takes money to make money" was most likely trying to justify accepting things as they were. It is easier to believe in this limiting belief and abdicate responsibility for changing your circumstances than to get of your bum and take action to do something about it. It doesn't take money to make money, what it takes is the ability to leverage what you have, your intelligence, talents, ingenuity and communication and networking skills. The truth is if you cannot make money without money you are unlikely to be able to make money with money! There are plenty of people in the world with money who are desperate to invest in good ideas. Ideas are much more than valuable than money – as illustrated by Dragon's Den. If you … [Read more...]

Top 10 limiting beliefs about money that could be blocking the flow of wealth and abundance into your life #8

Limiting belief # 8: you need to save your money in order to become rich Whilst living within your means and saving money is an important element of a healthy money mindset; over emphasis on saving and budgeting tips the balance between trusting in abundance and focusing on scarcity and lack. Over emphasis on scarcity and frugality tends to be the reaction of people who have lived through difficult times. The memory of their struggle with their finances leads to them being afraid of losing what they now have and as a result they hoard everything, afraid to part with any of their possessions no matter how redundant "just in case". Money is an energy flow and energy flows need to keep moving or they become stagnant. Anyone who has ever smelt stagnant water will appreciate how … [Read more...]

Top 10 limiting beliefs about money that could be blocking the flow of wealth and abundance into your life #1

Our beliefs are what give our thoughts and behaviour structure. What we believe tells us how to act in any given situation. However not everything we believe serves us well. If our beliefs prevent us from taking action that will enhance our well being then they are what is termed limiting beliefs. Limiting beliefs about money block the flow of wealth and abundance into our lives. Over the next 10 days I will be looking at the top 10 limiting beliefs about money and their origins. Limiting belief # 1: Money is the root of all evil (Evil: that which causes harm or destruction or misfortune (noun)) It is likely that the basis of this belief is the Bible. Timothy 6:10 says "the love of money is the root of all evil". Given the dominance of Christianity in the West, this idea has been … [Read more...]

How to be lucky!

Unemployment in the UK continues to rise. Currently there are 1 million under 25s without a job and about 2 1/2 million other people also seeking work and those are just the ones we record officially. For some people these are really difficult times and the more they buy into the negative outlook presented by the media the worst it is going to be for them. As implausible as it may seem, what you choose to think really does affect what you experience. Let's imagine that you are one of the unemployment statistics and right now you are without a job. If you think "gosh things are really bad, I have no money and no prospect of a job"; every day you hold this belief you experience this reality. Your mindset will present you from seeing any opportunities that present themselves to you. To … [Read more...]