If money was your life partner what would your relationship be like?

February is the month of love and relationships, but who is your primary relationship with?  It may come as a shock but for many people it’s with money – and unfortunatelypicture of a couple it’s not a healthy relationship either!  How we feel about money is a powerful driving force for our behaviour because in our community there are few if any things that we have access to without money e.g. the roof over our heads, food or being able to provide for our loved ones.  Money underlies everything we do – in the West it is hard to imagine a life without it.  The more senior amongst us may recall the television programme “The Good Life” a comedy series in the mid to late 70s about a middle-class couple who decided to try and live a life of self-sufficiency in suburbia.  Whilst the program was a highly amusing comedy, it was hardly reality.  It is difficult to become financially independent without money. For most of us if we don’t have a regular source of money we will quickly slip into state dependency and poverty.  However the truth is that it is our mindset not the amount of money we have that determines our financial future and how we build wealth well-being.

The rules of wealth go hand in hand with the  natural law of attraction, which tells us that our thoughts create things. If our thoughts are about lack and unworthiness then the things we create in our life will reflect lack and unworthiness.  The abundance in the universe is a matter of fact – scarcity is a mentality not a reality.  Change your thinking about money and start changing your relationship with it to one that is positive and supports you to achieve the stress free, financially free life that is yours for the asking.

So how do you currently see your relationship with money?  If money was your life partner what sort of relationship would you have?

Here are 10 signs, which if present in your love relationship/marriage then  it would clearly be in trouble – how many of these apply to how you feel about money?

1. There is a lack of clear communication about your values and goals so they don’t know what you want – you expect them to be able to read your mind

2. You do not recognise or acknowledge their true value.

3. You no longer enjoy time spent with them and keep finding reasons to be apart.

4. You feel undervalued and emotionally abused by them

5. Nothing you do seems right

6. You start to feel embarrassed to be seen with them and avoid public gatherings

7. You constantly complain about them to other people

8. They can never please you.

9. You no longer understand them

10. You have a love hate relationship with them; it is a battle to be with them and yet you can’t stand to be without them.

Just like any relationship, the process of healing your relationship with money begins with awareness and a desire to change.  When couples are experiencing problems they are often advised to make a special effort to appreciate each other.  This is good advice.  Practice truly appreciating money by being grateful for everything in your life.  Appreciate the wealth and abundance that is already here and acknowledge the part that money played in providing for you.

It helps to keep a gratitude journal – a book where you can list each day five things that you are grateful for.  Alternatively before going to sleep at night simply run through your mind the things that brought you joy that day and whisper a gentle “thank you” as you close your eyes.




About Ola Agbaimoni

Known as "The Business Detective" due to her "Sherlock Holmes" like problem solving abilities, Ola works in partnership with her sister Carole Pyke, The Business Bard. Together they run Eélan Media, a new type of Business growth agency offering a forensic approach to business and a creative approach to marketing. As well as being an expert in business planning, training and development, Ola is also a certified coach, NLP practitioner; an accomplished author, speaker and presenter.

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