How to be the wealthiest person on earth

How wealthy are you?  When you hear that question do you automatically start tallying all your physical assets?  Are you thinking about the money you have in the bank or what your earning potential is?  Are you thinking about any property you own, your car, the contents of your home?  It is common to equate wealth to money and for many people when they think about how wealthy they are they automatically think of monetary assets.

Money and the pursuit of it seemed to dominate our lives.  This is because we see money as possessing the power to provide us with everything we need physically emotionally and psychologically and even spiritually.

The problems arise when our beliefs about money start to impact on our lives in a negative way.

Some of the problems that people have with money may sound familiar to you:

I am always arguing with my partner, it doesn’t seem to matter what we start arguing about it always ends up with an argument about money.  They never take responsibility for their spending and I’m always left picking up the pieces at the end of the month when they’ve overspent.

 No matter how hard I try to budget or how much I earn, I always seem to be struggling to make ends meet and never seem to be able to have the money I need -it is as if me and wealth live on two different planets

I’ve worked hard to be in a position to afford anything I want – money is not a problem, however, I often feel guilty about how much I have.  I’ve noticed that I tend to spend money frivolously – it’s like I’m chucking it away in disgust! 

I noticed that whenever I feel down I go out and buy myself something whether I can afford it or not.  I feel happy for a while but then I start to feel as if something is missing again and before I know it I’m buying myself something- else usually bigger and better and more unaffordable.  I know I shouldn’t be getting into debt like this but just don’t seem able to stop myself.

All these people have developed a duality in terms of their relationship with money.  Instead of recognising money for what it is: a medium of exchange; a way of transferring value from one form to another; a way of tallying up how effective you have been at providing value to others (incidentally how effective you are at creating value says nothing about you as an individual -creating value is something you do. it is not who you are.  As soon as you start to use money to put value on an individual’s worth i.e.  in terms of their spiritual, emotional, psychological and physical being,  you step on to a very  slippery slope.)  Money can never be more than what we say it is. So it is important that we are really clear about what money really is and what it is not.

Quite simply money is nothing– nothing at all.  Money has no meaning; indeed it has no value except what we give it.

In order to heal our relationship with money we have to first recognise that how we currently relate to money is not serving us, individually and collectively.  The two biggest money issues in the world today are 21st century over consumption and belief in lack or a lack mentality.  That is the belief that there isn’t enough of anything to go around and that in order for some people to have more others will have to have less.

Wealth and abundance, far from being limited are boundless.  There’s enough in the world for everyone to have more than enough.  A lack mentality drives you to overconsumption in the belief that there is not enough and therefore you have to grasp everything there is.  These limiting beliefs about money mean that you are always chasing money, focusing on a lack of money rather than attracting abundance in your life.  What we focus on we attract and therefore instead of attracting abundance into our lives we drive it away.

Limiting beliefs determine how much wealth and abundance you experience in your life.  If you want a life of wealth and abundance, i.e. wealth well-being; healing your relationship with money is a way of achieving this.  What’s more because our collective money consciousness has created the world we experience today, by healing your individual relationship with money you automatically contribute to overall community well-being.  You owe it to you yourself and your community to do your work to heal your relationship with money.

3 things you can do immediately to start healing your relationship with money:

Create a wealth narrative – your wealth narrative is your wealth story, how it unfolds is up to you.  Think of creating your future experiences – everything you write will contribute to the new reality of wealth and abundance you are moving to from this point forward.  Your wealth narrative is primarily a daily Journal.  The process involves just writing whatever comes to mind without censorship, evaluation, judgement or even grammar.  Based on the principles in The Artist Way by Julia Cameron, the idea is to write your daily Journal each morning and aim to write a minimum of three pages.  This is a great way of clearing blocks and barriers to your creativity.  You may never be fully aware of what issues are being resolved by using this process, however, you will quickly notice the benefits.  Your thinking will become clearer and you will find that you are accessing creative solutions to issues that previously evaded you.

Identify your money mindset profile – The 9 money mindset profiles I have identified are based on my observations of how people I have worked with, lived with, mentored and coached interacted with money.  In addition I have also drawn on the work of Deborah L. Price (a highly regarded financial advisor and money coach in the USA) in her book Money Magic.

The nine money mindset profiles, although described as a type of person, are really states of mind that create the characteristics of an archetype.  Consequently these states of mind can be changed and along with the change in mindset comes a change in behaviour and attitude towards money.  The mindset states are fluid and although some people may occupy a particular state for a long period of time, it is possible to progress through these states organically.  However, the majority of people who get stuck in a particular state fail to shift it without external intervention.

This is because it is impossible to break free of your limiting behaviours and beliefs unless you know exactly what are the limiting behaviours and beliefs you are trying to replace. Do you spend more money than you have? Do you feel that you don’t deserve money? Do you believe that you have to compromise your ethics to make money? Are you rarely contented with your financial situation? These are just a few of the questions that you will need to answer in order to begin to break free from your bad money habits and restore money harmony in your life.

You can take the money mindset profile quiz here

Work with your money history:  You have been conditioned by your environment, by what you have heard, what you have seen, what you have experienced.  Unless you can change your programming or at the very least interact with it, it will continue to drive your thoughts which will drive your feelings which will lead you into taking certain actions, which will produce your results. By changing your programming you take the initial crucial steps to changing your results.

To start the process, look at your money history.  What did you hear about money when you were young (your verbal influences); what did you see the adults and people around you do with money when you were young (what you learnt to model) and what significant moments did you experience with money when you were young (pivotal incidents).

Using this information as a starting point, write your money history.  Think of it as your money autobiography and include as much detail as you can remember.  When you have completed your narrative, use your daily journaling to contemplate and respond to the following questions:

  1. What kind of relationship does your money history suggest you have with money?
  2. Is the relationship you have the one you want and if not what would you rather have instead?
  3. What does it reveal about your beliefs about money?
  4. Are your beliefs about money limiting you or propelling you to success?

To find out more about how you can create money harmony in your life so that you can experience more true wealth and abundance; feel contented and happy and be free from the stresses caused by money worries download the free e report: “The seven secrets of money harmony: a proven strategy for creating personal wealth and increasing the flow of abundance in your life”. Or book your free no obligation taster session to see how you can benefit from money harmony coaching and mentoring program.


About Ola Agbaimoni

Known as "The Business Detective" due to her "Sherlock Holmes" like problem solving abilities, Ola works in partnership with her sister Carole Pyke, The Business Bard. Together they run Eélan Media, a new type of Business growth agency offering a forensic approach to business and a creative approach to marketing. As well as being an expert in business planning, training and development, Ola is also a certified coach, NLP practitioner; an accomplished author, speaker and presenter.

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